Marcus P. Miller, CFP®
How to Have Difficult Conversations with Your Parents About Health and Finances
It is important to discuss plans for the future with our parents. This includes things like living arrangements, lifestyle choices, and what will happen with their wealth after they’re gone. For many of us, these conversations can be difficult and uncomfortable. Here are some tips on how to have a productive conversation about your parents’ health and finances without upsetting them.
Listen First, Talk Later
You must listen carefully to your parents as they talk about their plans for the future. Allow them to express themselves without interruption or judgment. This shows respect and demonstrates that you are interested in hearing their thoughts and opinions. Once they are done talking, it is okay to share your own ideas and concerns.
When having this type of conversation with your parents, remain open-minded and respectful of their wishes. They may have different ideas than you do about how they want their life to look after retirement or what they want to do with their money when they pass away. Make sure you understand where they are coming from before trying to persuade them otherwise.
Be Upfront About Your Concerns
It is also important to be honest about your own feelings and concerns. It is okay to express reservations or disagreements in a respectful way. Explain why you may feel differently than they do, but avoid getting into confrontations with them. Openly discussing potential issues could reveal potential solutions that everyone can agree upon.
Know Your Resources
If your parents have not made any plans or do not have sufficient financial resources, you may need to do some research on your own. You can search for retirement planning advice and resources online, meet with a financial advisor, or even contact organizations like AARP for additional recommendations. Knowing what resources are available can help make the conversation less stressful and help you make more informed decisions.
Having a conversation about your parent's health and finances can be daunting but it doesn't have to be overwhelming if approached properly. The best way is to start by listening, being open-minded, being upfront about your concerns, and knowing your resources. By following these tips, you can ensure that this difficult conversation goes smoothly without any misunderstandings or hurt feelings! This will help ensure that everyone involved has a clear understanding of the situation going forward which will ultimately benefit all parties involved in the long run.